New mothers who think they should be perfect parents might be at risk for postpartum depression, a new study suggests.
The results show that a type of perfectionism in which individuals feel others expect them to be perfect, known as “socially prescribed perfectionism,” is associated with
postpartum depression for first-time mothers.
The study is one of the first to look how perfectionism affects women’s ability to adjust to life after childbirth. It involved 100 first-time mothers in Toronto, Canada, who filled out questionnaires to assess their level and type of perfectionism as well as feelings of depression.
The link between perfectionism and postpartum depression was strongest amongst those who try to deal with perfectionism by appearing as if they don’t have a problem.
“What this suggests is that there might be some new mothers out there who might seem like everything is fine, in fact it might seem like everything is perfect,” said Gordon Flett, a professor of psychology at York University in Canada. “But in fact it’s just the opposite, that they’re feeling quite badly but they’re pretty good at covering it up.”
This finding is particularly concerning, because it means friends and family might not realize their loved one is
suffering from depression.
“This tendency to put on this front usually means that people don’t tell other people when they’re doing badly, so somebody might not know that a young women is having difficulty; they might have no clue whatsoever,” Flett said. “And there’s sadly some cases where the family says ‘We thought everything was fine,’ and the next thing we know, the person is no longer with us,” he said.
The results underscore the need to dispel the
myth of the “perfect parent,” Flett said.
“I think it’s just important for
new mothers and fathers to just realize, Hey, you haven’t got a lot of experience with this, you don’t need to be perfect, you don’t need to be absolutely the best parent in the world,” Flett said. “You need to just be able to experience the role, do your best, and your best is good enough.”
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